the blog of dan pontefract | Dear Mister Dylan Benson, you are the Definition of Class
7774
single,single-post,postid-7774,single-format-standard,ajax_fade,page_not_loaded,,wpb-js-composer js-comp-ver-5.0,vc_responsive

Dear Mister Dylan Benson, you are the Definition of Class

Dylan Benson, whose wife Robyn is now on life-support, said he intends to name their son Iver Cohen Benson. (Dylan Benson/YouCaring.com)

Dylan Benson, whose wife Robyn is now on life-support, said he intends to name their son Iver Cohen Benson. (Dylan Benson/YouCaring.com)

Dear Dylan (aka Mister Benson),

You are the definition of class.

To experience what you have — finding your wife prone, unconscious in the bathroom due to an irreparable cerebral hemorrhage — is heartbreaking. It is, perhaps, without words.

But you are the definition of class.

Recently married is one thing, but to know your wife is carrying your first child — a son, Iver — might be argued as cruelty against humanity. Cruelty against you, your wife and your son, of course.

But due to the work of astute healthcare professionals and technology innovation — not to mention the unending love your wife displays for Iver — your son incubates in relative safety awaiting his first breath. Who could imagine such a scenario?

But you are the definition of class.

First, you didn’t cower or hide behind such unimaginable pain. No, you started a blog.

A blog.

And with your first post — The Day After My Life Changed — you demonstrated humility, honesty and fear with deftness … with courage.

Second, you continued to write. From the update on your wife’s options, to the taxi driver story about lasagna, to the update about a 900 gram viewing of Iver … your resiliency is unteachable, your empathy innate.

Third, you not only write on your blog — and continue to write, openly and with veracity — you agreed to mainstream media interviews through print, radio and television. The CBC interview is one of the most demonstrable displays of humanity I have ever witnessed.

And lastly, by being public and through such unwavering sincerity, you agreed to establish the Baby Iver Fund to benefit your son into the future. That one act moves things to a whole other level of selflessness, such that you are able to provide for Iver in the years to come. Stunning.

You are the definition of class.

I too have a rock and am lucky to have met her. Robyn will be with you and with Iver forever. I know you will continue to be that rock for Iver going forward. He is lucky to have such a strong mother and obviously a compassionate, caring and loving father.

Never forget Mister Benson — and as hard as things may seem now and into the near future — you are the definition of class.

We’re not here to see through each other; we’re here to see each other through.

Sincerely,

Dan

PS. I donated. If you’re not Dylan and are reading this, please consider donating as well.

1Comment

  • Sandra Van Niekerk / 6 February 2014 11:23

    Dear Dan

    We are praying for you during ths challenging time. God is with you!

    Regards

    Sandra

Want to leave a comment? I'd love to hear from you. Cheers, dp.